"I don't know what to tell you, I'm just a Fertile Myrtle!"
This comment is one of the worst and one that makes me the maddest! Another variation of this is..."we just decide to get pregnant and it happens." If you have said this to someone struggling to get pregnant, please stop now and promise to never say it again. Your comment isn't helpful and all is does it remind me that I'm not blessed and lucky like you.
"Just stop trying and it will happen"
Okay, so yes, this has happened for some people. Sure, stress doesn't help the situation, but I have a medical condition. When you don't have periods or ovulate, just winging it isn't going to bring the best results. Yes, miracles happen, I know, but the chances of me getting pregnant on my own verses a completely normal, healthy woman are slim.
I think this one hurts the most. When you have friends and family that know your situation but never want to talk to you about it, it hurts. I spend a lot of my time crying over our situation. It would be helpful if these people acted like they cared. I realize that you may not know what to say, so you think saying nothing is best, but I promise, a hug, an "I love you", an "I'm sorry", anything to make you think you really cared about what I'm going through would be better than nothing.
The next one is an actual I comment I received from one of you...
"*hugs* I didn't have any hurdles when we were trying and it was hard for me to be patient. I can't imagine what you are going through. I hope you get positive news at your appointment."
In that comment, I felt her hug and love for me! I've never even met her and I felt like she really cared. She said she didn't have any hurdles, but she said it in a way that wasn't insensitive. She found a way to relate to me as a woman yearning for a baby and used that as a connection. This comment is just proof that even if you don't struggle with infertility, there are still ways you can have a conversation with someone who does.
In the midst of all the negative or hurtful comments, I have received such an outpouring of love and prayers from so many of you. Thank you! I really hope that this series has been helpful for those of you struggling with infertility and eye opening to those of you who don't struggle with it. Perhaps it will make it easier for you to love on someone struggling.
Cloth Diaper Revival. I'm a stay at home mom to Noah and a wife to Chas, the cloth diapering dad. I used to be a 3rd grade teacher until I was blessed with the birth of my first child, Noah. I'm currently trying to conceive my second child while struggling with infertility due to PCOS. This series covers my journey and my experiences along the way.