May 31, 2013

PCOS to Pregnancy: Is the grass always greener?

The grass is always greener on the other side. Right? I've been thinking about this a lot lately. One of you even mentioned in a comment a few blog posts back.

It's easy to take my situation and my sorrows and be frustrated with other pregnant women. I think to myself how easy it is for them to get pregnant. Some women I know are pregnant with their 4th and 5th baby and here I am struggling for a second. Or there are those women who always seem to be pregnant. The women who "don't try", or "fertile myrtles" or those women who have "2 under 2" or even 2 kids, just a year apart.

I look at these women and want to cry. Why is it so easy for them? The truth is, life's not fair. Sure, maybe these women do have it made when it comes to fertility and maybe they don't. How many of them have silently suffered multiple miscarriages? How many really spent years on fertility treatments, only to give up and then get pleasantly surprised with a miracle baby?

Even better, how many women looked at me during my last pregnancy wondering why it was so easy for me? The truth is, we don't know everyone's situation. And sure, it may be easy for some of these women, but that doesn't mean I should compare myself to them. This is the struggle I've been given. This is my testimony to walk through and witness to others.

I have been blessed in so many ways. I'm a college educated, stay at home mom. I have a husband that adores me, an amazing toddler, and a family that loves me dearly. How many people don't have all of that? How many people are looking at my life and wanting to cry when they see something I have they want?

This post isn't to boast about what I do have. It's a simple reminder that things may not always be what they seem. Or that we all are handed different struggles in life. So if you are struggling with infertility or something else, please don't compare yourself to others. The grass isn't always greener on the other side.

I'm Jenny, the mama behind the blog Cloth Diaper Revival.   I'm a stay at home mom to Noah and a wife to Chas, the cloth diapering dad.  I used to be a 3rd grade teacher until I was blessed with the birth of my first child, Noah. I'm currently trying to conceive my second child while struggling with infertility due to PCOS. This series covers my journey and my experiences along the way.

2 comments:

I think this is such an important point...we just can't know what is going on in someone else's life and someone who looks like they have it all may be struggling with something super major. I think you are right--we all are handed different things that are hard, and hopefully we can all be aware that life just isn't fair sometimes and cut each other some slack.

Yes! I couldn't agree with you more. I'm struggling with this myself. I'd LOVE to have another child, but right now finances do not permit it to try to conceive. I've been told that my husband and I are being sinful by using bc, that we're not trusting God, etc. Every time someone asks, "When are you going to have another?" I want to cry and often end up crying at home. You hit the nail that we don't know what's going on in others lives. Others seem to have the "perfect life", but silently they're suffering. I'll keep praying that you'll be able to conceive.