November 27, 2008

For the want of a baby

This post is out of the blue, but it's on my heart tonight and perhaps it will strike a chord with some of you.

My husband and I are experiencing secondary infertility. Our daughter was born 3 1/2 years ago and we always hoped to have our kids 2 or maybe 3 years apart. I thought, in my naive way, that having kids farther apart was too difficult on siblings (I am 7 and 8 years older than my brothers. My husband is 5 years younger than his sister.) Now, due to nature and probably God's will, the closest our kids can possibly be is 4 years and 2 month apart. That's IF we conceive in December.

It's funny, I was just reading an article on secondary infertility. In it, the author states that often parents feel guilty for their failure to provide a sibling for their child. A little lightbulb went on in my head. Yes, indeed, I feel like a bad mother for depriving my daughter of a sibling. I tell people "She's in preschool so she'll get some interaction with other kids." What I really mean is, "I've completely failed in my motherly duty to provide her interaction at home, so I have to pay someone to play with my child."

There are 5 stages of grieving, they say. In no particular order, anger, depression, denial, bargaining, and acceptance. In the 21 months of our infertility journey, I've been through all 5. As I tell my husband, I've BTDT to all five, but now I'm revisiting my favorites.

By far, most of the time, I am truly at peace with our journey. It's not always easy, but I lean on the Lord and I trust in His path for my life. Most of the time I'm fine seeing pregnant moms, new babies, and itsy bitsy diapers. I am so incredibly thankful for my little girl...if she's all I ever have, I'm still fulfilled as a mother.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Things I'm thankful for:
My family
my faith in God
my church (are you reading this Alisa?!)
Sunny days
Netflix (love getting movies in the mail...watching Baby Mama tonight)
diapers that don't leak
clean diapers
Sunrises and sunsets
hyacinth flowers
Toys that keep my daughter occupied for 5 minutes
cold medicine (yeah, I've got the crud right now)
a million other things

Hope you had a wonderful day and a great holiday weekend!

November 25, 2008

Naturally bleaching out stains

Did you know you can use the sun (or even just daylight) to naturally bleach out stains?

Organic stains, like those caused by poo or breastmilk, can easily be bleached clean. Simply wash the item, then lay it or hang it in the sun to dry. By the time it's dry, the stains will be gone. It's like magic!

What if it rains where you live? You can still lay it out and it'll still work. I've "sunned" diapers in the rain and it works fine. It just takes longer and then I rewash the diapers to get the rain out. Alternatively, you can lay them in a window or on the dashboard of your car.

That last tip works if you live in a cold, snowy area, too. If it's freezing where you live, just lay the diapers in a window. Takes longer, but it works fine!

I've mentioned it before, but I live in the Willamette Valley in Oregon where it rains more days than not this time of year. I sometimes get tired of the dreary days, but I love all the green (yes, we mow all year!)

November 24, 2008

Life with a 3 year old

Our daughter, Camille, is 3 1/2. She's in preschool Tuesdays and Thursdays. Today they had picture day so we went in all dressed up for pictures. She was so cute. She sat so still and let the photographer pose her. The pictures turned out great and I can't wait to get them in a couple of weeks. Can you tell Camille is my first child? LOL

Camille has been potty trained during the day for a long time, but she still wears diapers for night and naps. Being a toddler, especially one who loves milk and juice, she pees a lot. So what diapers do we use?

Knickernappies make up about half of our stash. I love, love, love the 2G version. It's wider than the 1G version so it's easier to stuff and I can easily fit 4 (yes 4!) inserts into it. Fuzzi Bunz and Snap-Ez round out our stash. While I've tried every brand I carry, my husband swore off velcro a couple of years ago so now we only have snap diapers.

Anyway, inside those diapers I use LoopyDos, Just-Hemps, and SuperDos. For my heavywetting daughter, 2 Loopys with 2 Just-Hemps is perfect. A trimmer option that works just as well is 1 SuperDo with a Just-Hemp.

Camille has been a great tester over the years. She still loves to get new diapers. I hope we're blessed with a new baby soon because she can't wear diapers forever! (Nope, not pregnant, just trying!)

November 23, 2008

Some of my favorite cloth diapering tips

If you've ordered from me and read the brochure I send with every order, then you've seen these already. This is a list of my favorite tips, all gleaned from my own experience.

If you're new to cloth, expect leaks the first few days. It seems, no matter how much people research, how well they wash, how conscientious they are, trying something new like cloth diapering isn't always successful the first few days. I remember crying to my husband that I'd made a mistake and that maybe cloth just wasn't for us. He encouraged me to give it a few more days and he was right. Suddenly I guess everything "clicked" into place and worked the way it was supposed to. In over three years of having this business, I've discovered this is very common. Moms call me and say the diapers arrived yesterday but they're leaking, what are they doing wrong? Nothing! Like everything else, there is a learning curve. Give it a few days and you'll be fine. This is probably my best piece of advice.

Wash all diapers at least once before wearing and dry them in the dryer on regular or high heat. Washing the diapers cleans them of factory dust and handling dirt. Fabric is handled a LOT before you receive the diapers and it's nice to know that they're truly clean before putting them on your baby. And drying items with PUL (the waterproof fabric) helps to seal needle holes for extra waterproofing.

Use two inserts at night. This is a surprisingly common mistake. Very often new-to-cloth moms will call and ask why the diapers leak at night. And nearly every time it's because they're only using one insert. For newborns that are changed throughout the night, one insert is fine. But for older babies that are sleeping several hours at a time, two inserts and even possibly three, will likely be necessary. If you find that two or three inserts is too bulky, I sell several types of inserts that are ideal for trim nighttime diapering. SuperDo inserts is one such insert. This is the #2 rated insert and is a very absorbant, yet trim, option for nighttime.

More advice to come later!